Why “doing what you love and not working a day in your life” is a myth

Why “doing what you love and not working a day in your life” is a myth

Myth: “If you do what you love you won’t work a day in your life”   They say that following your passion is effortless, requires no work, creates no stress and is otherwise easy. No they don’t normally say that word for word but there’s some insinuation, isn’t there? You’ve all heard it before, the cliche statement. The one that says “If you do what you love, you won’t work a day in your life.   If you’re like me, (and you probably are to some level,) you’ve fallen victim to this myth. Allow me to explain. You find something you love, something you’re “passionate” about. You go in head first and begin chasing that passion. Almost instantly you run into trouble, an obstacle or an issue. That of course leads to stress, which leads to anxiety, which removes the joy from your “passion,” which finally leads you to the conclusion. The conclusion that you no longer love doing what you’re doing, that you are no longer passionate about it. This will likely result in a departure from your passion. I have been here before, many times!   So what happens here? Did your passion fade? Do you conclude that you are evolving, and due to this evolution your dreams change and your passions come and go? Maybe it’s because you found that passion was hard. Doing what you love was work after all. Not only would you have to work but you would have to sacrifice for it!   Reality: “If you do what you love you will work every minute of your life”   Now that we’ve...
How watching the success of others can hurt you

How watching the success of others can hurt you

Have you ever paid attention to a horse’s eyes in a race? You’ll notice they often wear something over their eyes called “blinders.” One reason for this is to help protect their eyes from dirt and dust… But the main reason is a bit more important. They are often strapped with these eye covers to keep them focused straight ahead. Horses have peripheral vision, they can see behind them and all around each side. This can cause a problem in a race because if a horse gets scared or distracted, it may run off course, or worse, collide with another racer. For the jockey, it is important to ensure that the horse looks only straight ahead. It does the horse no good to see what the others are doing. In fact, it does not matter what the others are doing. In the race, it is entirely up to each animal to win. What the others do makes no difference. It must only do everything in its own power and strength to win. It must stay in it’s own lane, and run with everything it’s got.   Stop watching what everyone else is doing. Unfortunately we often find ourselves in a situation similar to that of the scared horse. The one in the race that can’t keep it’s eyes on the track. We look around, wide-eyed, watching everyone else run their race and we lose hope. We see others success and we get discouraged. We see people do things that we want to be doing and they have progress and we ourselves seem to be spinning in circles. I am...
Give yourself permission to do great things

Give yourself permission to do great things

The other day I received my proof copy of the book I have been working on for the past 6 months. My hands were slightly shaky when I first opened the package, delivered by the FedEx guy with questionably short shorts. The anxiety and the excitement came together in a blend of emotions that quickly turned into one of the greatest feelings of accomplishment I have had yet. I felt victorious holding what was first created in the mind, visualized daily for over half a year, and now, physically sitting in the palm of my hand. Out of the mind came a manifestation of what was once only an idea. “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” -Napoleon Hill   Give yourself permission  I don’t believe that we give ourselves enough credit when it comes to thinking big. Because when we first birth an idea in the mind, and before anyone ever gives their approval, we’ve already allowed our minds to wander and dream so big that our ideas actually scare the hell out of us. We can already see the finish line. I know there are things you have imagined doing or creating that you have never told anyone about, but have thought about endlessly. That crazy business idea, that new invention, that book you’ve been wanting to write for so long. But when it comes to doing it, we tie and bound ourselves so tight in our minds that we choke any action out of existence. We want permission before we can proceed. We subtly hint at the idea around others in a hope...
How to be more confident around people

How to be more confident around people

“Emotion is Motion!” “EMOTION IS… MOTION” It’s 8 hours into a Tony Robbins seminar and we have yet to see Tony. My ass and my back hurt. Finally the 6’7 giant makes it to the stage. The previous hours of pushy, overly confident speakers, trying to sell us on their academies and training’s are over. Robert Herjavec and a Gary Vaynerchuk hologram were the only reason I have not walked out up to that point. Finally, Tony comes out and proceeds to set the place on fire. He had a rave party going. 7,000 people out of their seats, on shoulders, jumping on their chairs for a good minute with music blaring. We were getting a lesson on confidence, body language, and emotion. A funny thing he taught us, about the way we approach people, whether it’s in a business setting, among friends, or people we are only meeting for the first time. “Emotion is Motion” — Tony Robbins   The way we feel at the exact moment that we engage in conversation with another human will determine how they see us. It will determine the mood of the room. It will determine whether the person we just met will even like us. Motion changes our physiology, which in turn, changes our emotion. I have previously written an article on body language based on a popular TedTalk by Amy Cuddy and have experienced for myself how simply ACTING more confident actually makes us more confident. How changing your body posture actually changes your brain to feel different. Closed in, arms crossed, holding your neck, speaking quietly, shaking a hand softly all show...
“What will people think?” Why we should avoid conformity

“What will people think?” Why we should avoid conformity

There are a few questions we ask ourselves when it’s time to make a tough decision and we may not even do it consciously. How will this make me look? What will they say? What will people think!? You don’t actually say these words, but you think in this way. I do. When I started my transition from living with blind hope that one day I would be a success and do work that gave me a sense of fulfillment and happiness… to actively searching for my purpose, I was afraid. I was afraid of what people would think. What would they say to me when I would tell them that I could’t take it any longer? That I was about to walk away from a job to which I studied in school for? What would they say to me when I would tell them that I would rather mow lawns for a living than spend another day behind that cubicle? They would think I was nuts. And worse yet, they would laugh when I told them I was doing it to pursue my dream of being an inspirational speaker and writer. I was “good-time Charlie” on the weekends and I made people laugh. I led the charge when it came time to break into a football stadium at night or climb the roof of the house at a party. What the hell did I know about inspiring others? They didn’t know I had a single serious bone in my body. And they never would have if I had crumbled to my fear, conformed, and never took the step....
7 books on personal development that will change your life.

7 books on personal development that will change your life.

It took me 24 years to read a non-fiction book all the way through. I wish I had started sooner. Rewiring years of negative and limited thinking is no easy task. Your mind has formed habits that are deeply engraved in your neural pathways and even when you begin to see life in a new way, the old ways of thinking will haunt you. You cannot put a price on things that rewire the mind. People pay a lot of money for coaches, shrinks, and booze but in my personal journey, it was books that saved me. The best habit I have ever developed is to read consistently. It is a time to step away, shut out the noise, shut off the screen and be still. Even if I listen to an audio tape of a book, I have to buy the physical copy. There is just something about holding a book, bending it in your hands and losing yourself in the thoughts of an author who spilled his or her life out onto the pages for you. I like to highlight and write in them. Things that impress me or make me think, things I want to come back to and research later. I often think that if my house was burning down, my books would be the first thing I would try to save ( Don’t worry, I don’t own a cat ). I read many books in 2016 but the following 7 I would like to recommend to you. They will change your life. 1. “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill I read this book in...

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